September 22, 2011 | 07:16 AMLibra (Sept. 23-Oct. 22)
It's never too late. There are a few things in life that it is too late for you to do—become a professional ballerina, astronaut, or child prodigy, for example—but these instances are very, very rare. Almost anything you'd actually want to do is still possible (although it may admittedly be more challenging or difficult than it would have been if you'd begun earlier). Don't write off your dreams just because the courage or clarity to attempt to fulfill them has arrived a bit late. However, don't waste a lot of time now, either. If you're having this much trouble getting going now, just think of how much harder it'll be next year (or next decade).
Scorpio (Oct. 23-Nov. 21)
Your truth can sometimes be harsh, but that's no reason not to share it. The only reason, in fact, to keep it to yourself is if opening up about it will only cause pain without also creating understanding. I admire your reluctance to inflict pain at all, but please accept that for most of us Scorpio-lovers, comprehension and awareness of the big picture are more important than protection from a bit of suffering, or hearing a harsh truth. Speak it, baby. It's yours and not only can the people around you take it—they want to take it.
Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21)
You of all people should know that if you push too hard for an answer you'll almost always get the answer you don't want. After all, that's the one you deliver when someone tries to move you faster than you want to go. The difference here is that you're almost never the one who wants to push things faster, so when you finally feel it you want it all to happen right away! Unfortunately, that's just not how it works. If you want to sabotage things, go ahead and keep applying pressure to them. But if you'd like them to at least have a chance of turning out how you want, back off.
Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19)
I'm almost never late, so I occasionally have real trouble swallowing my annoyance about others' tardiness and/or lack of apology about it. This is a nitpicky thing, but the implication behind being late to meet someone is quite simply that your time is more valuable than theirs, and not apologizing says that they ought to just accept that. Now that you know I get the issue, believe me when I say that making a stink about it is a pretty bad idea right now. You need to do something I'd find just as difficult: let it go and get over it, for your own good.
Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18)
Try to avoid your emotional extremes right now. The blunt "no" you want to blurt out is a little harsh, don't you think? See if you can make it a conditional "yes," instead. Even if the conditions you feel you need to attach to it are pretty intense and difficult, at least it leaves the option open, which is always kinder and more interesting than simply shutting the door. Yes, they may very well be unwilling or unable to rise to the challenge, but if they do, wouldn't that be a win-win situation for everyone?
Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20)
People do change, of course, but just saying it's happened isn't the same as it actually happening. I don't believe the whole "once a cheater, always a cheater" thing, but at the same time, I'm willing to concede that someone who was willing to go there once is definitely more likely to go there again—unless they've truly had a profound and lasting change of character. This is something only time will tell, and to some extent that requires you to offer the benefit of the doubt. Do you have the patience to see what happens here? Decide now—because if you don't, it's probably better for all concerned if you just bail right away.
Aries (March 21-April 19)
Other people are simply overflowing with unhelpful, unsolicited suggestions, aren't they? There's no stopping these would-be do-gooders from unloading all their delightful advice upon your unwilling ears, so getting pissed off about it is hardly going to help matters. In fact, about the only thing you can control here is your own reaction. That means keeping a tight rein on your (totally justified) feelings, mostly biting your tongue, and moving on as quickly as possible. Engaging these over-eager advisers will just prove frustrating and pointless, so avoid it and walk away. Don't look back. It'll just encourage them.
Taurus (April 20-May 20)
One of the coolest (and most potentially frustrating) things about the world is how incredibly differently people can see things. Very few (or perhaps none) of these perspectives are inherently "right" or "wrong" so avoid that misguided mindset. Naturally, you may discover that someone's way of looking at the world is so different from yours that you two are essentially incompatible. But is that really the case here? Amiably agreeing to disagree, without overt judgment, has been the basis of many a beautiful relationship. Since converting them to your way of thinking is highly unlikely, at least consider it a better option than simply walking away.
Gemini (May 21-June 20)
It's true that some people can take (and live) lies very deep, and carry on elaborate deceptions for long periods of time. However, that's almost never actually the case—and, despite your compelling suspicions, probably isn't here, either. Let this one go until incontrovertible evidence confirming your doubts presents itself. You have better things to think about. Don't waste a ton of time trying to figure out what is (or isn't) an intricate scheme to keep you in the dark. Shed your paranoia long enough to assume that the simplest explanation is also probably the most accurate one.
Cancer (June 21-July 22)
I don't blame you for being daunted by the list of Unpleasant-Crap-That-Must-Be-Done you're facing. Luckily, you shouldn't be tackling all of this alone, even if enlisting aid is more annoyingly complicated than it should be. Divvying up unpleasant tasks is hardly a fun job, but sometimes it just needs to get done—especially if the alternative is you tackling all of them yourself. Luckily, the only options aren't just being a hardworking doormat or an uncompromising tyrant. There's a lovely place in between where you enlist others' cooperation, generously do slightly more than your fair share, and end up with everyone mostly happy, including you.
Leo (July 23-Aug. 22)
You know you can be touchy and moody. Admit it. And to some extent anyone who wants to be close to you will simply have to deal with these facts. However, that does not mean you have carte blanche to inflict your volatile emotions and drama on whoever happens to be nearby. As you evolve, you must learn other ways of coping with this stuff. This week, work on securing the help you need to really come up with and put into practice ways to become lower maintenance and more fun to be around. That help's totally there, just waiting for your call.
Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22)
Must you be delighted by everything those you love adore? Of course not. Must you tolerate it? Probably, yes. Must you pretend to like at least some of it? Not necessarily, but doing so might have two positive benefits: 1. It'll make them feel good (provided you never, in the heat of the moment, throw it back in their face ("And by the way, I always hated watching football with you!")), and 2. You might actually develop a genuine new interest. While in the latter case it's unlikely you'll ever develop the same passion as those around you, it's not inconceivable that your new pastime brings you real joy, anyway, and adds to the overall richness of your life. Give it a go.
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